If you are tired of listening to everyone around you telling you that “you should be in a relationship or married with a couple of kids by now” then this blog post is for you.
If you are wondering why you are still single when everyone you know is in a relationship or married and that somehow you failed in romance and the only positive in your life these days is talking to your cat. I’m here to tell you that living life as a single woman can be an amazing adventure as you get to decide your future and you don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy.
“If you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be.”
maya angelou
You can find love at any age and strong independent women realise that it is better to wait for the right person as being in a relationship with the wrong person is worse than being single. You don’t have to compromise on your values and settle for less as you can enjoy your life while you wait and choose the right person for your next relationship. You can have a wonderful life as a single woman by learning to love yourself, continuing your personal development, developing your career or business and realising that you don’t need anyone’s approval on how you choose to live your life.
Here are my 7 tips to succeed as a single woman, enjoy being alone and not settle for less:
- Love yourself: The journey in this life is about learning to love ourselves, accept everything about who we are and from this place of surrender we can grow and overcome the limiting beliefs of ourselves. When you learn to love yourself you feel happier and you don’t worry about other’s opinions. You are not afraid of speaking your mind as you don’t fear being judged, you forgive and love yourself unconditionally. You become a powerful single woman because you no longer need anyone’s approval.
- Focus on personal development: Create a plan for your life so that you never need to rely on anyone. What are the areas for improvement that you can focus on developing more for your life? It could be that you want to learn new skills, build confidence and set new goals for personal and professional growth. Single women strive to continue learning and growing in new areas to reach their potential. You might want to start a new career or study for another qualification. There are endless possibilities for single women, you just need to set clear goals and know what you want to do with your life. Open your mind and search within yourself, find out what makes you happy, what lights you up and in time you can see it in your reality.
- Adopt a positive mindset: It is easy to criticise yourself about all the things that are going wrong in your life, but this is not a healthy way to live your life as you are creating a negative cycle of experiences. Look at the things that are going well in your life and start creating a positive way of looking at every situation. You will start to feel better about your circumstances and when you adopt a positive mindset you will realise that you are always in control of your thoughts and situation. Keep a journal and write about all the things that are working out in your life, this will help maintain your focus on a positive attitude. Practice positive affirmations to help change negative thoughts. Write affirmations in the present tense as if what you want to happen has already happened. For example, instead of saying “I will have a wonderful new job” you might say “I am grateful that I have a wonderful new job.” There has been scientific research on how the brain changes with positive affirmations and you can find more information on positivepsychology.com
- Create a financial plan: It is so easy as a single woman to spend money going out when you don’t have a partner but start looking at your finances and create a savings plan or invest your money in property. Look at ways of increasing your income, you can start creating multiple sources of income. Your hobby can become your side hustle, there are many ways you can start earning money online. Perhaps you can start a YouTube channel and promote your services or teaching a skill to others, the possibilities are endless. You will find that you have skills that you can monetise that will help you pay off your credit card or any other debts. Single women need to be financially savvy in planning and budgeting for their financial independence.
- Look after your health: If you don’t have time to go to the gym, you can start exercising at home as there are many exercise videos online. Choose a class that you enjoy, it could be yoga or a body workout for 15 minutes every day. Whatever you choose, know that you are making a good choice to look after your body. Single women can be very busy managing all aspects of their lives and responsibilities as there is no one else to help with the daily tasks and household chores. It is important to schedule a self-care routine and take time out of your busy schedule to relax and connect to your inner self. You can go for a facial or a massage and treat yourself when you feel that you are making progress on your tasks. It is important to reward yourself for your hard work. Start eating healthy and be mindful of the food and drink that you put into your body. You don’t need to be so strict that you stress yourself out as occasionally we all need to indulge in a pot of Ben & Jerry’s ice-cream or a delicious something when watching our favourite romance movie. Notice how you you feel when you eat junk food and choose meals that nourish your body and make you feel good. Research has shown that there are many benefits of a plant based diet, it is always your choice to find out what works for your body. It is important to have a healthy diet to have the strength to continue achieving all your dreams. More information on The effects of plant-based diets.
- Helping others: If you don’t get involved in your community then no one will know who you are and you can start to feel isolated in a new location. You can meet new people when you join a local group and help others by volunteering your time in a youth project or whatever you are passionate about. This is an opportunity to share your knowledge and skills with like-minded people that are serving others and a contribution to helping the world. You will realise that you are never alone when you reach out to help others and it adds to the meaning and purpose in your life.
- Create a comfortable home: Your home should be your sanctuary, it is your space to relax and feel safe away from the world. Keep your home clean and tidy, you don’t need all the luxuries but you will need the basics to feel comfortable while you build your career or business. You can add and improve your home as your income increases. Living simply will also decrease stress as you won’t have to clean and tidy extra items around your home and can give you extra time to focus on your career and other interests. Create a comfortable space for relaxing and another area for working, this will train your mind and you won’t be tempted to look at your phone or computer during your relaxing time.
TIME IS PRECIOUS
While you wait for your knight in shining armour don’t waste time, continue your personal development, develop your career or business because you are responsible for your life. Don’t rely on anyone to save you as you are the hero of your life; you can develop strength and courage as a single woman. You are a woman with integrity and respect and you don’t have to compromise your values or settle for less. Life might seem challenging along the way, but when the right man arrives, you will be ready and he will love you for who you are and all your great values.
You are the creator of your life, start living life on your terms and enjoy the journey.