We all want to be happy but what do you do when you are stuck in an environment where you are surrounded by negative unhappy people all day? Perhaps you are surrounded by negative family members that are always complaining or criticising your every move. You might work with energy vampires in a soul-destroying job and the conversations zap your energy and happiness before you even start your workday. I totally understand, but what you need to realise is that you are probably feeling like this because your energy is vibrating on a higher frequency and that is ALRIGHT! If you are walking around smiling and happy and everyone else looks sad, continue smiling and stay positive and know that it’s OKAY to not fit in! When you are vibrating at a different frequency and you are happy, you don’t feel any connection to negative people or the environment. The positive feelings and emotions of happiness and joy are on a higher frequency than the negative feelings of frustration, anger and fear that are on a lower vibration. Sometimes, it can be hard to maintain your positive energy in these environments and it can feel like your energy is being drained by these energy vampires.
WHO IS AN ENERGY VAMPIRE AND HOW DO YOU RECOGNISE THEM?
Energy vampires can be family members, colleagues, managers, people you are surrounded with every day and what they all have in common is they ‘feed on YOUR ENERGY’ people who will give them their time and attention. The conversations are usually about them as they constantly seek attention. They are always talking about problems and they can be manipulative, they have lost their moral compass and they are living a lie.
For example, in the work environment, energy vampires drain the positivity of coworkers and the entire team. They can use dehumanising tactics such as bullying and intimidation to build up their egos as they have many insecurities and poor communication skills. I believe everyone has the ability to improve their life if they recognise and acknowledge their behaviour patterns are hurting others and themselves, then change can happen. It is sometimes easier to speak to family members and tell them how the situation at home is affecting you but speaking with colleagues in the work environment can be a little more challenging. However, IF things don’t improve and the negative environment is affecting your life, start making plans and look at new ways of working. Most people are not in a position to spontaneously quit their jobs, so what can you do to increase your positive energy until you are ready to leave and explore new opportunities?
In both situations; at home and in the office it IS possible to make some changes to increase your energy and help you cope with negative people so that they don’t affect your life.
Here are some ideas that have helped me to increase positive energy in any situation and raise my vibration:
STAY POSITIVE WITH A GRATITUDE JOURNAL
The subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination, therefore just by thinking about positive moments during the day is the same as what you experience with your 5 senses and this immediately raises your vibration as you are thinking about positive experiences. Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools you can use to improve your mood during the day! This helps to raise your energy so that you don’t feel drained by negative people or environments.
You can write at least 5 things you are thankful for every day or more if you have time. Practicing gratitude helped me to stay focused on my dreams and not allow negative people or environments to affect my life!
MEDITATE
Practicing meditation in the morning can set the tone for the entire day and help you stay focused and calm. You can meditate at night but the ideal time to meditate is in the morning as the mind is free from any stressors before you begin the day and the benefits of the practice will be enhanced.
WHY DOES MEDITATION HELP?
Meditation is a great tool to help raise your vibration and positive energy in life and if you don’t have much time, you can start with 10-15 minutes every day and you will start to feel the benefits of the practice.
When you practice meditation it helps to calm the mind and cultivate presence. You can tap into your higher self and this is when the miracles start to happen and the real journey begins. There is a feeling of unlimited possibilities and the connection to divine source energy. There is NO FEAR when you start feeling this connection with source as it will increase your positive energy, level of consciousness and help you navigate through any challenges you encounter during the day.
VISUALIZE YOUR POSITIVE FUTURE
Train your mind to focus on the solutions and not the problems. Think about all your goals that you want to achieve and visualize that you are already living your dream life. As you increase your energy and raise your vibration, you will realise that your current problematic situation is only temporary and will not last forever. It becomes easier to deal with the negative people and situations. You know you got this!
LAUGH, SMILE, THE FUTURE IS POSITIVE
We know that laughter is the best medicine. Surround yourself with positive people who make you laugh and have your best interests at heart. Laughter increases endorphins (the body’s natural feel good chemicals) that are released by the brain and can promote an overall sense of well-being.
LET GO OF THE PAST
Learn to forgive yourself and the negative people that have caused you pain and suffering. Always remind yourself that it is not your fault, everyone is at their own level of consciousness on this journey of life. Once we begin to understand that we are on a different level of consciousness, we will begin to realise the reasons we will not always connect with everyone we meet and that’s OKAY. For example, a person who is selfish and manipulative is not going to connect or build rapport with someone that cares about people and their emotions. The energy is going to be different as the person that cares about people is living at a higher state of consciousness. I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way to live as everyone is on their own journey, the choice is yours how you decide to develop and learn to become better humans and continue to raise your positive energy.
As we continue to rise from lower to higher consciousness and we are able to maintain our positive energy we develop the patience and ability to understand that negative people are prisoners of their own mind. There are always consequences for people that create negative situations and want to hurt other people. We don’t allow their behaviours and actions to affect our life as when we are able to live in positive energy, we vibrate at the higher frequency of love. From this place we are able to forgive and let go of the past as negative actions no longer affect us.